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Mom at 40
I was 40 years old when I gave birth to my son Joshua in 2014.
My name is Nathalie. I am a French Caribbean lady who lives in London, the United Kingdom with my son and husband.
I still remember today when I’ve first seen the inscription on the device,
“Pregnant 2 weeks”
I was thrilled. I still even have a picture of the pregnancy test! 😉
Although my husband and I were together for 10 years, we decided to have a child late. It was a planned pregnancy.
First time mom is scary!
So, here I was the first-time mom at 40, excited but with some apprehension at the same time.
Of course, I was scared and I did have a few minutes of a doubt. But the doubt evaporated very quickly as I reminded myself that I wanted to have this child. However, it did take me some time to realize what was really happening.
At the end of the day, nothing and no one really prepares you to this new life of motherhood.
OMG! Nobody tells you anything!
Of course, you know it’s not gonna be easy, but you don’t realize it until you get there. Nobody emphasis enough how hard it is to look after a child. Not even your own mum will tell you so much about it.
Imagine, I come from a big family with a lot of sisters and brothers. My sisters who have children have not dramatized the toughness of being a mother.
Nobody tells you how your body can change (beyond the shape), how challenging your relationship can become as soon as the baby is here. It is just unbelievable!
I suppose that mums don’t want to appear too negative or maybe they just want you to discover by yourself.
Being a mom is a full-time job 24/7
Forget about your freedom at least for the first years of the life of your baby. Clearly, my son does not care if I am tired, need to tidy up, or need to take a shower. I have to be available for him and things have to be executed right now! Otherwise, I will get screams and unstoppable cries.
Clearly, it is very tiring, I must say.
But, now he is a bit older (20 months while I am writing this blog) and does understand better, I can explain things to him. Therefore, I am able to achieve a bit more of my goals during the day.
Sharing experience as a mum over 35
Anyway, although I am well aware that every child is different, however, I still hope you can get some tips and ideas from my journey as a new mom in her 40’s.
I do not pretend to be an expert; I believe that we are here to help each other. So, please feel free to ask questions or even leave me a comment.
Founder of WiseMom40.com